Kyle Torrence and Jove Meyer

Kyle Torrence + Jove Meyer

In this special episode of Weddings-ish, the roles were reversed: Jove Meyer, usually the host and planner behind countless heartfelt celebrations, sat down as the guest of honor —alongside his husband, Kyle Torrence. With dear friend and fellow podcaster Emma Gray of Love to See It, stepping in as host, the conversation offered an intimate look into the process of planning their own wedding, from the first vision to the final dance.

Jove and Kyle were thoughtful partners throughout the planning journey, bringing their unique strengths to the table. As a planner and designer, Jove naturally led with vision—mapping the floor plan, dreaming in stained glass and custom linens, and thinking through the flow down to the most minute detail (including 16 variations of seashell herb butter). Kyle, a creative and performer in his own right, took the reins on ceremony scripting, music, and fashion. The two balanced one another with honesty, humor, and care—even instituting a one-veto rule, which Kyle famously used to nix Jove’s original concept: an all-chrome wedding with an all-white dress code.

Their ceremony was the emotional and visual centerpiece of the day. Held at the Bowery Hotel on the summer solstice, Jove drew inspiration from a stained glass water tower near their home and from the rainbow—a symbol that held deep personal meaning. The couple reimagined the space as a queer chapel, filled with color, sunlight, and a sense of reverence that reflected their love story. It was this design—the stained glass concept—that became the foundation for every choice that followed.

Dinner drew from their shared travels and memories: a nod to Fire Island, Paris, Sicily, and Monet’s garden in Giverny. Inside the reception space, a drop ceiling of floating cumulus clouds met lush green linens and painterly florals—intended to evoke earth and sky, grounding and dream. The tables were dotted with hand-painted ceramic vessels sourced from a Korean artist in Paris and customized shell-shaped butters that became a favorite talking point among guests.

Fashion, too, was a key expression of self and celebration. With the help of stylist and close friend Ali Kornhauser, the grooms curated a weekend wardrobe that reflected their individuality and their union. Jove wore a custom look from Whearerhalf, while Kyle chose Tom Ford and Saint Laurent for the ceremony. Later in the evening, Jove surprised Kyle with a lamé crop top for the dance floor—a moment of glamour, freedom, and fun that reflected the joy of the night.

The wedding was full of powerful emotional beats: heartfelt speeches from both of their brothers, a dance shared with their moms, and a quiet moment at their sweetheart table when Jove and Kyle paused to take it all in. But what surprised them most was the emotional lull that followed. As Jove shared, he often guides clients through the highs of the wedding day—but now understands the quiet that can follow after months of anticipation and celebration. It's something he now encourages couples to prepare for, even if just by planning a few intentional days together after the wedding.

Ultimately, the wedding reflected what Jove asks of every client: What’s your love story, and how can we let your guests experience it? By prioritizing meaning, personal history, and joy over trends or expectations, Jove and Kyle created a celebration that was wholly their own. The result was not only visually stunning but emotionally resonant—an experience that continues to inform Jove’s work and the care he brings to each couple he supports.

“I wanted a chrome wedding and for everyone to wear white… and Kyle was like, do you even know my family?” — Jove Meyer

on Kyle using his one veto!

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